I used to be very lukewarm about the topic of church members working as the church administrative assistant. No more! It is much too painful and much too hard to end the employment if things aren't working out. No, you have to have someone in there that sees the pastor(s) as the boss with no role confusions.
She has been given more than ample opportunity to improve her behavior, particularly her insubordinate attitude towards the pastors. I didn't realize how worn down I was feeling by it until Tuesday night's Session meeting when we were discussing her termination. When asked my thoughts, I started crying and told them that I hated going to the office because I felt abused. Now it's done and she won't be there the next time I go in.
So, I drink a glass of wine tonight and breathe a sigh of relief that no more will I have to endure in the office:
- temper tantrums when I want something changed in the worship bulletin,
- having everything I write for the church newsletter rewritten in the way she thinks it should be,
- not being able to use the second church phone line because she's on it half the day,
- having things "lost" or "forgotten" because she didn't want to deal with it,
- and especially, being treated like I'm a stupid, irresponsible kid.
I truly hope she finds a great job where she can use her considerable skills and where she gets to be the boss. Maybe now I won't get sick to my stomach just thinking about going into the church office.
